Take time to consider what you wish to do with cremated remains especially when the deceased did not communicate their wishes. Once scattered, ashes cannot be collected. There are countless options for scattering ashes. Some families hold a special service which can occur soon after the funeral, or perhaps on an anniversary of their loved one’s death. Selecting a place that is significant can hold great meaning and may assist with the process of healing.
Ashes can be stored in an urn, a box or other ornament. They can be turned into fireworks; scattered from planes, drones or floated out to sea; they can even be included in tattoos. Ashes can be scattered at a mountain’s edge, near beaches and rivers, at sporting fields, public parks, orchards or vineyards. They can be divided and shared amongst the next of kin, allowing each family member to decide on how and/or where they wish to keep them. Ashes can be buried in gardens or planted with memorial trees, shrubs or flowers.
If you want to scatter ashes on private land, you need permission from the landowners, and for public land, contact your local council or other authorities. Without the right permission, you may risk fines or legal proceedings. Also, the public place where you wish to scatter ashes could be earmarked for future development, therefore making it difficult for you to visit the site to remember the deceased. It is important to think carefully about where you wish to scatter the ashes.
If you are considering scattering ashes at sea, you must get permission from the master of the vessel before scattering the ashes. The Australian Government advises that no permit is required to scatter ashes at sea. For options of releasing ashes in rivers or oceans, you may choose a biodegradable container; these are now available in the shape of turtles, fish and other options. Friends and family overseas, or future generations, may wish to know where cremated remains were placed. These can be recorded on Scattered Ashes.
As a qualified celebrant I can organise and conduct a beautiful and meaningful ceremony to reflect this final act for your loved one. You may like to include readings, music and rituals which are significant to make it a truly moving tribute. This ceremony can be as simple or as stylised as you desire.